Taking a step back from blogging has made me realize a few things, some of them not so pretty. The most concerning to me is that I’m not entirely sure I present myself in writing as I am in real life. I’ve decided that I either need to hang up blogging or get back to my roots with authenticity. Because as things stand right now, I have completely lost interest and have no desire to write from this platform. Why? Let me explain a few things you may not know about me from my writing…
1) I’m a homeschooler but I have never been hard core about it. Meaning I don’t feel that passion to induce others to follow my path. Yes, I believe it affords my family an opportunity to grow in ways I’m not sure we could or would in another schooling scenerio. But what I believe in is passionate parenting. I believe in throwing our whole selves into loving and raising God-fearing children with a moral and spiritual compass firmly within their grasp as they step across the threshold into adulthood. I have two friends, semi-locally, who choose homeschooling. Two. Every other of the friends around me has felt led to school in a more “traditional” environment. But you know what strikes me? These families take their job seriously. They are fully invested in the task at hand. And it is evident when we spend time with them that their hearts are knit together. They certainly have more outside influence to deal with than we do as homeschoolers but they are dealing with it wisely.
The bottom line is, I believe in homeschooling. I choose to stick with it because that is how we feel led to proceed. It is the path we believe God has placed before us. But it isn’t up to me to decide if it is the same path God has placed before others. That puts me on the blogging fringe of some of the other conservative-minded homeschool bloggers (although I have never met with anything but kindness from them) and can create a bit of friction among readers. I have no desire to be divisive but I feel almost dishonest not laying it out there.
2) I have 7 children and am about 3 1/2 months along with my 8th, but I have never managed to embrace that “quiverful” mindset. I struggle through pregnancy and the older I get the more I struggle afterpregnancy. I firmly believe each baby is a blessing but I have spent more of my child-bearing years trying to prevent those blessings than waiting in anticipation for the next one to show itself in two pink lines. My current pregnancy has already been riddled with emotion as I have gone swinging from one end of the pendulum to the other. I am dealing with absolute fear. I keep having to take those fears to His feet and I’m grateful to have friends, family and an AMAZING husband who remind me to keep my eyes on the big picture. But while I get excited when I hear the heartbeat or feel those first flutterings of movement, I still have moments of doubt and fear. I’m a work in progress and mostly the progress just feels awful slow.
3) I’m not much of an activist. I don’t typically launch a boycott and I don’t feel my hackles rise when I see news reports that only testify to the fact that we are sitting on the precipice of time…time that is running out. Things are bad but we were told they were going to be. The world at large is clueless and, for the most part, it seems perfectly content to remain so. I detest evil and the evil workings of the dark one as much as the next girl, but my thought is that we should fight evil with good. I don’t boycott Walmart because of the magazines that line the check-out and if a sweet little girl scout were to knock on my door with cookies, you can be pretty sure I’d hand over a few dollars to support her, not Planned Parenthood. I have no problem with people following their honest to goodness convictions…in fact, I encourage it. My issue comes when people look for things to be “convicted” about and then respond in ungoldly ways to unsuspecting people caught in the crossfire. If I began to boycott every place that had unsavory ties I’d be left with pretty much nowhere to spend a dollar. And for me (maybe not you) I don’t have the time to figure out who supports what in this world rapidly filling with evil.
So, as I timidly step a toe back into blogging, I wanted you to have a glimpse of what is inside my head and my heart. And I’d love to hear your own thoughts. I have absolutely no problem with people disagreeing with me, I just think it does all of us well to speak through a filter of love.